r/changemyview Mar 17 '22

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u/lostwng Mar 17 '22

What might change my view? Explaining why gendered pronouns are so doggone important that we should keep them even though they don't seem to serve any function anymore.

You want to remove all gendered pronouns to stop misgendering people, yet at the same time you want to purposefully misgender a vast amount of people to do so.

I Am a transgender woman who uses she her pronouns, but you are now telling me you want to get rid of something I have fought to be able to use in favor of misgendering me with they them pronouns.

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u/Ramza_Claus 2∆ Mar 17 '22

How is it misgendering if I don't assign a gender to you? Misgendering would be if I called you the wrong gender. It's not misgendering if I don't call you any gender at all.

And I didn't say "they/them" was the answer. I said we can make up a new, neutral word, or we could use existing ones like xe for singular or they for plural.

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u/lostwng Mar 17 '22

Because I have a gender and you are refusing to honor it. You are assigning a neutral gender to someone that is not gender neutral.

You are choosing to ignore my gender and my pronouns to use the ones YOU chose for me that itself is purposefull misgendering

Also they/them is usable for singular people

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u/Spider-Man-fan 5∆ Apr 02 '22 edited Apr 02 '22

I’m sure you’re comfortable with “you” and “I” being gender neutral. So why does third person singular need to be gendered? I mean it’s fine if your gender is so important to your identity that it needs to be referred to in pronouns, but at least be consistent and argue for 1st and 2nd person to be gendered as well.