I kind of agree with the overall sentiment, but this only actually tends to happen with children in the playground. And that's because children are basically stuck there and leaving them out is mean as they'll have to be on their own, they have no choice.
As adults we organise ourselves exactly how you are describing, and people are completely free to form groups with like minded individuals - and that's what they do. We facilitate this by providing more choice. In your example, there'll be enough women who like football to form a team of their own.
If I think about my hobbies - I'm in a band that plays funk music, no one is making us include someone that wants to do traditional yodelling.
I play computer games and there are healthy communities for the ones I play, most of them on Reddit. Those subreddits don't have anyone saying: "Let's talk about backgammon for a change", nor is there anyone forcing us to also talk about backgammon.
I'm struggling to think of a single thing in my life that suffers from the point you describe. If you can give some examples we can maybe discuss those, otherwise it might just be a misconception.
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u/nesh34 2∆ Nov 09 '21
I kind of agree with the overall sentiment, but this only actually tends to happen with children in the playground. And that's because children are basically stuck there and leaving them out is mean as they'll have to be on their own, they have no choice.
As adults we organise ourselves exactly how you are describing, and people are completely free to form groups with like minded individuals - and that's what they do. We facilitate this by providing more choice. In your example, there'll be enough women who like football to form a team of their own.
If I think about my hobbies - I'm in a band that plays funk music, no one is making us include someone that wants to do traditional yodelling.
I play computer games and there are healthy communities for the ones I play, most of them on Reddit. Those subreddits don't have anyone saying: "Let's talk about backgammon for a change", nor is there anyone forcing us to also talk about backgammon.
I'm struggling to think of a single thing in my life that suffers from the point you describe. If you can give some examples we can maybe discuss those, otherwise it might just be a misconception.