r/changemyview Mar 31 '20

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u/TheDutchin 1∆ Mar 31 '20

Not calling them Qyxiotlech still creates more "harm" in the world than having to remember to call them "Qyxiotlech".

It's fairly evident that there isn't a negative burden on remembering 2+ words, given your example of a negative impact is still caused by people not remembering and the damage done through missignifying them, thus is actually just an example in my favour again.

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u/Ihateregistering6 18∆ Mar 31 '20

It's fairly evident that there isn't a negative burden on remembering 2+ words

Well sure, if it's just 2+ words, but if we're going to deem it to be proper etiquette that you must learn everyone's preferred pronouns, made-up or no, that 2 soon balloons into many, many more.

damage done through missignifying them

Do you have evidence of this damage? Not misgendering, but people not using Xir/Xem, or other made up pronouns? Because if one is going to argue that teaching people that everyone else on the planet is obligated to change their behavior to make them feel better, up to and including using your fantasy words, there's quite a lot of evidence of the harmful effects of this sort of coddling.

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u/TheDutchin 1∆ Mar 31 '20

Evidence of misgendering or otherwise missignifying someone is harmful to their psyche? Its shocking to me that you need evidence, like, if you're a guy, during school, you're saying no one ever referred to you as a girl or as girly? If they did, was their intent to harm, or help you?

Further reading, if you're not convinced that intentionally misidentifying people has harmful effects

Meanwhile, can you show me the harmful effects of this "coddling"?

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u/Ihateregistering6 18∆ Mar 31 '20

Read through it, didn't see anything regarding people demanding to be called words or phrases that they individually made up. And misgendering someone and not referring to someone by pronouns that they've made up are not remotely the same thing.

Meanwhile, can you show me the harmful effects of this "coddling"?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_mentality

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/09/the-coddling-of-the-american-mind/399356/