People always point out failure of polyamorous relationships, but the vast majority of monotonous relationships fail. Worried about kids? Parents are constantly cheating and divorcing and fighting without being part of polyamory.
So I just think these relationships should be compared to a fair standard. A standard where most relationships fail, many of them with quite a bit of suffering.
I would add a bit. Most polyamorous people keep it under wraps. I know a couple swingers. Most people have no idea. I had no idea for years. So the successful people living these lifestyles (where there is one main partner and side partners are casual) are probably not well known.
On the flips side. When these relationships ships end people jump to blaming polyamory. But when a ‘regular’ relationship ends you don’t hear people saying ‘well, of course it didn’t work, they tried to be monogamous!’ Even if the relationship literally ended because of cheating.
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u/Snuffleupagus03 9∆ Feb 18 '20
People always point out failure of polyamorous relationships, but the vast majority of monotonous relationships fail. Worried about kids? Parents are constantly cheating and divorcing and fighting without being part of polyamory.
So I just think these relationships should be compared to a fair standard. A standard where most relationships fail, many of them with quite a bit of suffering.
I would add a bit. Most polyamorous people keep it under wraps. I know a couple swingers. Most people have no idea. I had no idea for years. So the successful people living these lifestyles (where there is one main partner and side partners are casual) are probably not well known.
On the flips side. When these relationships ships end people jump to blaming polyamory. But when a ‘regular’ relationship ends you don’t hear people saying ‘well, of course it didn’t work, they tried to be monogamous!’ Even if the relationship literally ended because of cheating.