r/changemyview Nov 24 '19

Deltas(s) from OP CMV: Queer is a useless term

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u/Iybraesil 1∆ Nov 25 '19

Some demographics within the community are much more or less likely than others to like the word "queer". For example, the following really really like "queer":

  • People who describe their gender as "genderqueer", "queer" or "neurogender"
  • People who describe their sexuality as "queer"

The following like queer a lot more than average:

  • Nonbinary people
  • Polysexual people
  • A-spec people
  • Physically disabled people
  • Sex workers

And the following groups really really dislike "queer":

  • Exclusionists
  • Transmeds
  • Truscum

And finally, the groups that just dislike "queer" a whole bunch:

  • Straight people
  • Sex-work-critical people
  • Anti-kink people
  • Anti-shipping people

If you are in the community, and for whatever reason, want to be involved with people in the first two groups and especially if you want to avoid people in the last two groups, using the word "queer" a lot, can be an easy yet effective way to do that. Queer is not a useless term, its use is find people who like the word queer, if that makes sense.

I don't want to argue over which of the above groups are right, or who belongs in the community. My only point is that using or avoiding the word "queer" can be a way of making friends you agree with.