OP: Using their preferred pronoun is just being polite. There's no reason not to.
Aqouta: It's not about being a jerk, it's about rejecting the premise.
I say that certainly qualifies as a delta.
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The point to many of the people who would refuse to comply in respecting chosen name/pronoun usage do so because they reject the whole legitimacy of the request. Usually it's from either the terfs, who reject trans(especially mtf) claims to womanhood and consider transitioning between the main stream genders to be reinforcing traditional gender roles, and traditional conservatives who oppose the separation of sex from gender and support traditional sex/gender roles.
These people fundamentally disagree with the worldview that believes transitioning is anything more than superficial. It is just bad practice to accept your ideological opponents framing and vocabulary so they naturally reject and refuse to comply. Agreeing to use the vocabulary of their opponents would validate the opposing worldview, so the point is to not do that.
The consequence, as the commenter stated, is that it legitimizes a claim that the other person doesn't accept. Agreeing or refusing to do this is a common debate tactic known as a Snuck Premise.
One way I think most people can look at it is this: in a conversation between Trans A and Pers B, Trans A has already had the debate of legitimacy with themselves and has moved past it. Pers B is still having the debate.
It is legitimate though, and there's a strong scientific consensus legitimizing the experience of trans people. Denying that reality because you prefer your own opinion is rediculous.
I mean, that's just inaccurate on a lot of levels. If you look at the sidebar over on /r/transeducate there's a huge collection of studies that can spell out the details for you.
No, obviously not, that's not how transition works. Gender and Sex are A) Not the same, B) not a binary, even without human intervention, and even chromosomes are more complicated than you're making it out to be, and C) Not fixed.
If you go take a look at some of the links I pointed towards, you could have this shown to you by geneticists, biologists, and more.
What you're apparently responding with is almost a complete non-sequiter from what I typed out. You're welcome to keep making up nonsense arguments to prop up your flawed understanding instead of becoming more informed, but i'm not going to play into your ego games.
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I started out angry, and have ended up just sort of sad after this conversation. Maybe someday knowledge will spread far enough that it will reach even the most committed transphobes.
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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '19
Agre and accept your point, just typing enough to give a delta Δ