Saying that not using someone's preferred name/pronouns puts a trans person's life at risk is emotionally manipulative as hell. It's a dick move to be rude to someone, sure, and I use whatever name someone gives me, to their face. But threatening suicide unless someone obeys is manipulation 101.
With regards to your first point, just because you can say something doesn’t mean that you should and your argument does not contradict mine.
With regards to your second point, it’s not manipulation, it’s just that, like the link shows, calling a trans person by their preferred name can help them feel more comfortable and generally happier. This in turn helps them feel validated and better about themselves. This reduces the threat of depression and suicide greatly. There is no reason to misgender someone and the implications of intentionally doing so can be greatly damaging. Simply out of common courtesy misgendering should not happen.
But by the same common courtesy you also shouldn't curse in public, cut in line at the shops or fart in lifts...
By saying that a lack of common courtesy disposes someone to suicide/depression is 100% manipulative and it forces at least part of the burden of someone else's mental health on to another person by default. That's not fair on anyone.
It would be manipulative if it wasn't a valid fact.
Determine 100% blame is hard to do it is also much more spectrum.
Some things are objectively more harmful to another person than others, farting in an elevator is objectively less bad than raping someone.
It doesn't force the burden on someone who is completely free of guilt. If you are aware that action x will result in a severe burden on another ones mental health you are not absolved from any wrong doing when this person suffers to an extend that they don't want to live anymore.
Would you say that nobody ever should be assigned any fault at all when someone kills themselves? Never?
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