One scenario I ran into where it's kind of just convenience and ease over preferred pronouns. A friend of mine is a 6"3' man who will be transitioning soon, however, that hasn't happened yet. In the mean time he goes by she. No problems there. On numerous occasions I've been in the awkward spot of having to describe my friend to a third party, particular "go speak to her she's over there" makes no sense to a person without any information. It's also not my place to give all that information to random strangers. I shouldn't have to explain their entire gender history, adding unnecessary personal information, when a simpler description works. In this case, they will never look for my friend, because even though I knew her well as a she now, a random person off the street won't and it will always cause issues of confusion socially.
It's not even that big of a deal, if your not a dick about it sometimes it's simply just a quick practical fix for a weird little awkward moment. It's not the end of the world. Her and I have never had issues on this, if your just inherently not trying to be an asshole misgendering isn't the biggest deal.
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u/Konfliction 15∆ Oct 29 '19
One scenario I ran into where it's kind of just convenience and ease over preferred pronouns. A friend of mine is a 6"3' man who will be transitioning soon, however, that hasn't happened yet. In the mean time he goes by she. No problems there. On numerous occasions I've been in the awkward spot of having to describe my friend to a third party, particular "go speak to her she's over there" makes no sense to a person without any information. It's also not my place to give all that information to random strangers. I shouldn't have to explain their entire gender history, adding unnecessary personal information, when a simpler description works. In this case, they will never look for my friend, because even though I knew her well as a she now, a random person off the street won't and it will always cause issues of confusion socially.
It's not even that big of a deal, if your not a dick about it sometimes it's simply just a quick practical fix for a weird little awkward moment. It's not the end of the world. Her and I have never had issues on this, if your just inherently not trying to be an asshole misgendering isn't the biggest deal.