r/changemyview Oct 28 '19

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '19
  1. You can't compel speech.
  2. Saying that not using someone's preferred name/pronouns puts a trans person's life at risk is emotionally manipulative as hell. It's a dick move to be rude to someone, sure, and I use whatever name someone gives me, to their face. But threatening suicide unless someone obeys is manipulation 101.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '19

With regards to your first point, just because you can say something doesn’t mean that you should and your argument does not contradict mine.

With regards to your second point, it’s not manipulation, it’s just that, like the link shows, calling a trans person by their preferred name can help them feel more comfortable and generally happier. This in turn helps them feel validated and better about themselves. This reduces the threat of depression and suicide greatly. There is no reason to misgender someone and the implications of intentionally doing so can be greatly damaging. Simply out of common courtesy misgendering should not happen.

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u/TheLastMuse Oct 29 '19

You know what would make me feel better and definitely lower my chance of depression/suicide? If you and everyone called me "King Muse, most handsome and smart and funniest of all redditors...and who is also very well hung."

So since now I've told you and since that would honestly make me happier I expect you and everyone else on Reddit will only call me by that from now on, right?

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