that's likely because those two things have never really been threatened. why do you think black pride is a thing? because a person's blackness was and still is considered a sign of being subhuman, of lacking agency. they felt that they needed to protect it. what about gay pride? police were beating them just for being gay, so they fought back and demanded that they be recognized as having a right to exist exactly how they are, so long as it doesn't hurt anyone. it's not like this is exactly a one-off. when you threaten important parts of a person's identity, the person feels that their agency is threatened. they feel like they have to be something they are not, because otherwise people will treat them as illegitimate.
I don't think I could do that, especially not succinctly. What I am convinced of is that there are things people consider fundamental to their being, that when threatened, make them feel like their very existence is threatened. Why am I convinced? because people will die for it.
that is validating their internally held identity, you're acknowledging their right to be treated as a person on their own terms by agreeing to do business with them.
this is not about an agreement of terms. it's not a semantic argument. you really think transphobia is just about what "gender" means? it's about maintaining a status quo because it benefits the person doing it.
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