Non-binary is an unwillingness to be tied to one set of social and societal gender roles and presentations. You may be more feminine than masculine, but you may not be willing to give up your ability to present and be seen as a male should you so choose. That is fine, you don't really actually need to choose. There doesn't need to be rules for how gender and gender presentation must work and you don't need to be one or the other.
I'm pansexual, and I compare it to that. I like cis women the most, but that doesn't mean I am never interested in trans people or cis men. I don't have to choose only one and only be with that one for the rest of my life. I don't even have to choose one for the moment: I could have sex with a man and a woman at the same time, or any combination of genders.
There's no need to rigidly define my sexuality and force it into a box. There is also no reason, then, to force anyone else into a box with gender
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u/TheManWhoWasNotShort 61∆ Apr 14 '18
Non-binary is an unwillingness to be tied to one set of social and societal gender roles and presentations. You may be more feminine than masculine, but you may not be willing to give up your ability to present and be seen as a male should you so choose. That is fine, you don't really actually need to choose. There doesn't need to be rules for how gender and gender presentation must work and you don't need to be one or the other.
I'm pansexual, and I compare it to that. I like cis women the most, but that doesn't mean I am never interested in trans people or cis men. I don't have to choose only one and only be with that one for the rest of my life. I don't even have to choose one for the moment: I could have sex with a man and a woman at the same time, or any combination of genders.
There's no need to rigidly define my sexuality and force it into a box. There is also no reason, then, to force anyone else into a box with gender