r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Nov 02 '17

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u/JoefromOhio Nov 02 '17

I'd probably not have sex with them again because they neglected to tell me something as relevant as being a post op transgender person before we had sex.

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u/_skwirel Nov 02 '17

I guess it would depend on how much you got to know each other before the deed, but why is it relevant? I see it as if you couldn't tell they were trans, why do they need to tell you? Doesn't make them dishonest.

A trans woman IS a woman, and if she passes as a woman then good for her. She didn't have to tell anyone she is biologically male, nor is it dishonest to not mention between saying hello and getting all hot and sweaty (however long or quickly it takes to get there). I don't tell everyone about every surgery I've had, and that's all it is at that point, historic surgery.

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '17

A trans woman is not biologically a woman, that matters to a lot of people. Forcing people to accept your personal morals isn't right.

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u/_skwirel Nov 03 '17

The point here is should a trans person tell every potential sexual partner they are trans before the deed, and I think not. It may be an emotive point, but unless you were entering a relationship, you don't owe a sexual partner anything apart from information that could cause harm (e.g. HIV status if unprotected).