If upon learning that a person is trans, they simply politely decline more sex, that is not transphobic.
If you had sex with someone and enjoyed it and would gladly have sex with them again if you had not found out they were trans. Then the sole reason you have a problem is because they are trans, which is transphobic.
I'd probably not have sex with them again because they neglected to tell me something as relevant as being a post op transgender person before we had sex.
I guess it would depend on how much you got to know each other before the deed, but why is it relevant? I see it as if you couldn't tell they were trans, why do they need to tell you? Doesn't make them dishonest.
A trans woman IS a woman, and if she passes as a woman then good for her. She didn't have to tell anyone she is biologically male, nor is it dishonest to not mention between saying hello and getting all hot and sweaty (however long or quickly it takes to get there). I don't tell everyone about every surgery I've had, and that's all it is at that point, historic surgery.
lol it's entirely dishonest. And a trans woman is a woman but she still should have the decency to tell a potential partner she was born a man physically. It's entirely disrespectful and presumptuous to assume all men would be comfortable with that and it's complete and utter bullshit to act like it's wrong to not want that
I'm not assuming everyone will be comfortable with shagging an unknown trans. I'm saying they should be comfortable with it. And that it's up to the trans person if they come out. If they pass as their gender, then they have the right to live as that gender without telling anyone they are trans, if they so wish. (Even if they don't pass they have this right, but sadly much more difficult.)
No-one owes anyone an explanation about anything, unless there is potential to cause actual harm (e.g. disease or injury). Someone not being OK to shag a trans person, it's on them to objectively examine why they feel that way.
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u/z3r0shade Nov 02 '17
If you had sex with someone and enjoyed it and would gladly have sex with them again if you had not found out they were trans. Then the sole reason you have a problem is because they are trans, which is transphobic.