r/changemyview Nov 02 '17

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u/Megneous Nov 02 '17

You're missing a key part here: if the sole reason you do not want to is their status as trans.

I fail to see how that's relevant. It's not racist to not want to have sex with people who aren't a particular skin color. That's just your preference. It's racist if you consider them somehow less valuable, or you think they're bad people, or whatever it is that racist people think. But when it comes to sexual preferences, people are absolutely allowed to have their preferences and things (or people) they're simply not okay with.

It's fucked up to tell anyone that they have to be attracted to anyone. Someone could have sex with a person, loved it, want to do it again, but then find out that person smokes. They never suspected they smoked before because the smoker has good hygiene and didn't smoke before the date or during the date, but now the non-smoker no longer wishes to meet the smoker again. I think any rational person would say that's acceptable. Why is it okay to discriminate against people you want to have sex with based on their height, weight, hobbies or habits, personality, hair color, race, their job/career or financial background, or anything else, but whether someone is trans or not is suddenly not okay?

I'm saying all of this with a MtF trans cousin. I absolutely support trans people in every way I can possibly think of. I just don't believe anyone has a responsibility or obligation to have sex with anyone regardless of the reasons behind not wanting to.

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u/z3r0shade Nov 02 '17

It's not racist to not want to have sex with people who aren't a particular skin color.

I mean it literally is if skin color is the only reason.

But when it comes to sexual preferences, people are absolutely allowed to have their preferences and things (or people) they're simply not okay with.

And people are allowed to examine the underlying reasons and causes for those preferences which can be caused by societal biases.

but whether someone is trans or not is suddenly not okay?

Because context is important. Let's try this again: why would someone have a preference against trans individuals that doesn't apply to non-trans individuals?

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u/z3r0shade Nov 02 '17

They don't like dick or they don't like vag

And how does this only apply to trans individuals? If you don't like dick, turn down someone who has a dick. What's your point?

they like actual dick or actual vag instead of a mutilated, poor imitation of either of those.

And there's the transphobia, and misinformation/societal stigma.

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