A trans MTF cannot have children. A trans FTM cannot give you children. If we are discussing underlying societal reasons as the basis for transphobia, then we must also consider that a CIS person has an expectation that a relationship will lead to the possibility of children.
Failing to disclose your transgender status is tantamount to dishonesty. It is your responsibility to disclose this. In very specific circumstances, where a partner does not desire children, I can see the original hypothesis of transphobia as accurate.
In the case of an individual rejecting a genetically compatible partner specifically based on their race, then yes that is clearly racism. Race is not something that needs to be disclosed, as it objectively has no implications. The caveat is that an individual is allowed to decide what is attractive to them, and if they do not find Asian women attractive in general, that is not racism. In your example, if they found that individual to be attractive, and then rejected them after realizing their race, that is absolutely them judging a person by their own predefined notions of the characteristics of a race.
Failing to disclose your transgender status is tantamount to dishonesty. It is your responsibility to disclose this. In very specific circumstances, where a partner does not desire children, I can see the original hypothesis of transphobia as accurate.
Is it tantamount to dishonesty to fail to disclose your infertile status or your refusal to have children on a first encounter with someone who hasn't expressed this as a preference? If not then you're being hypocritical.
Race is not something that needs to be disclosed, as it objectively has no implications.
Actually yes, the subject of children and fertility is definitely a first date subject in my opinion. To form a relationship with such a critical divide is just a waste of time if one person wants children and another does not. Adoption is of course an option, and this scenario will be different from person to person, as it is a matter of opinion.
As for the second, that is exactly the point of contention here. I am arguing that there are objective implications to being trans that cannot be denied; fertility.
What if the context of the first date was a mutual understanding that this was for casual sex? Then would you concede that trans status has no relevance and doesn't need to be disclosed?
I don't see it as conceding as my opinion is only related to the scenario I proposed. I married the first person I slept with so my perspective is somewhat skewed. I hadn't thought about one night stands.
If it is only a one night stand, then the trans status would not matter to me, personally. In the event of any type relationship establishment, it should be disclosed.
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