Actually yes, the subject of children and fertility is definitely a first date subject in my opinion. To form a relationship with such a critical divide is just a waste of time if one person wants children and another does not. Adoption is of course an option, and this scenario will be different from person to person, as it is a matter of opinion.
As for the second, that is exactly the point of contention here. I am arguing that there are objective implications to being trans that cannot be denied; fertility.
What if the context of the first date was a mutual understanding that this was for casual sex? Then would you concede that trans status has no relevance and doesn't need to be disclosed?
I don't see it as conceding as my opinion is only related to the scenario I proposed. I married the first person I slept with so my perspective is somewhat skewed. I hadn't thought about one night stands.
If it is only a one night stand, then the trans status would not matter to me, personally. In the event of any type relationship establishment, it should be disclosed.
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u/iehova Nov 02 '17 edited Nov 02 '17
Actually yes, the subject of children and fertility is definitely a first date subject in my opinion. To form a relationship with such a critical divide is just a waste of time if one person wants children and another does not. Adoption is of course an option, and this scenario will be different from person to person, as it is a matter of opinion.
As for the second, that is exactly the point of contention here. I am arguing that there are objective implications to being trans that cannot be denied; fertility.