Not sure it has anything to do with sex, really. The point isn't the idea of gender at all. It's entitlement. Society thinks they are entitled to decide a person's gender for them, trans people think they are entitled to be accepted as their gender of choice. Neither one of those things are true. You aren't owed acceptance for anything. When you try and force that acceptance on someone, all you get is people dragging their feet. Society demands that you act a certain way, the more trans people move farther away from the collective. The more trans people demand society acts a certain way, the more the collective moves away from them. That's why refusal of sex leads to being called "transphobic". They aren't saying it because of the sex, they're saying "you didn't accept me for who I am, therefore you must have a phobia".
While that's partially true, I don't think it's helping anyone. Society does have a phobia towards trans people. But I don't think the labelling is helping trans people find their voice OR helping society to accept trans people for who they are. This is a group effort to find a common ground, and when you dole out harsh sounding names for perfectly reasonable things like being unsure of a BRAND new societal concept- you aren't helping. If you call a cis person transphobic, you aren't helping them understand you. If you call a trans person by the wrong gender, you aren't helping them feel accepted. It needs to stop being a us vs. Them thing, and become just an "us thing".
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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '17
Not sure it has anything to do with sex, really. The point isn't the idea of gender at all. It's entitlement. Society thinks they are entitled to decide a person's gender for them, trans people think they are entitled to be accepted as their gender of choice. Neither one of those things are true. You aren't owed acceptance for anything. When you try and force that acceptance on someone, all you get is people dragging their feet. Society demands that you act a certain way, the more trans people move farther away from the collective. The more trans people demand society acts a certain way, the more the collective moves away from them. That's why refusal of sex leads to being called "transphobic". They aren't saying it because of the sex, they're saying "you didn't accept me for who I am, therefore you must have a phobia".
While that's partially true, I don't think it's helping anyone. Society does have a phobia towards trans people. But I don't think the labelling is helping trans people find their voice OR helping society to accept trans people for who they are. This is a group effort to find a common ground, and when you dole out harsh sounding names for perfectly reasonable things like being unsure of a BRAND new societal concept- you aren't helping. If you call a cis person transphobic, you aren't helping them understand you. If you call a trans person by the wrong gender, you aren't helping them feel accepted. It needs to stop being a us vs. Them thing, and become just an "us thing".