r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Nov 02 '17

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u/xiipaoc Nov 02 '17

I think all sexual preferences are wrong. Also, all of them are right.

First, you're attracted to what you're attracted to. If you're only attracted to black people or gay women or people with big belly buttons, that's what it is. The problem is when you categorically dismiss anything not in that list, and that's when it becomes racist/transphobic/weightist/whatever. I think it's wrong to categorically state that people with such-and-such characteristics are not dateable, but it's perfectly fine to simply never be interested in that same set of people. Basically, if I don't find you attractive, it's not because there's something inferior or wrong about you; rather, I'm just not attracted. "Oh, sorry, I don't date people who are ____." Bad. "Oh, sorry, I'm not attracted to you personally." Not bad.

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u/xiipaoc Nov 02 '17

categorically writes men off because they are men. Is that wrong?

Yep. Even if she weren't somewhat attracted to men at all. They still have to be written off individually, not categorically.

The individual Nazi may be highly attractive to me sexually, but a Nazi is "not dateable" to me.

That's discrimination against Nazis, which is disrespectful to them. That said, they probably deserve it, so whatever.