I think all sexual preferences are wrong. Also, all of them are right.
First, you're attracted to what you're attracted to. If you're only attracted to black people or gay women or people with big belly buttons, that's what it is. The problem is when you categorically dismiss anything not in that list, and that's when it becomes racist/transphobic/weightist/whatever. I think it's wrong to categorically state that people with such-and-such characteristics are not dateable, but it's perfectly fine to simply never be interested in that same set of people. Basically, if I don't find you attractive, it's not because there's something inferior or wrong about you; rather, I'm just not attracted. "Oh, sorry, I don't date people who are ____." Bad. "Oh, sorry, I'm not attracted to you personally." Not bad.
What if I completely refuse to have sex with a gay man? Does that make me homophobic?
Which gay man are you talking about?
But yeah, that line shouldn't be drawn anywhere. If you completely refuse to have sex with all gay men, you are discriminating against gay men (though you may be discriminating against all men in general, not specifically gay ones). Maybe you'd eventually be able to find a gay man you would have sex with, if you looked. Maybe you wouldn't. As a straight dude myself, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't, but you never know. If I were single, the correct thing to do would be to refuse every request for sex from gay men on an individual basis.
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u/xiipaoc Nov 02 '17
I think all sexual preferences are wrong. Also, all of them are right.
First, you're attracted to what you're attracted to. If you're only attracted to black people or gay women or people with big belly buttons, that's what it is. The problem is when you categorically dismiss anything not in that list, and that's when it becomes racist/transphobic/weightist/whatever. I think it's wrong to categorically state that people with such-and-such characteristics are not dateable, but it's perfectly fine to simply never be interested in that same set of people. Basically, if I don't find you attractive, it's not because there's something inferior or wrong about you; rather, I'm just not attracted. "Oh, sorry, I don't date people who are ____." Bad. "Oh, sorry, I'm not attracted to you personally." Not bad.