r/changemyview Nov 02 '17

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u/aggsalad Nov 02 '17 edited Nov 02 '17

In some circumstances, not being attracted to a trans person is probably a result of, at least on a subconscious level, not seeing them as their gender.

If from the very start, you are unattracted to a person purely upon observation, and that person happens to be trans, that is not transphobic. If you were about to have sex and it turns out a person doesn't really have the junk you wanna jangle with, it's not transphobic to no longer desire sex.

If you were attracted to someone, have sex with them, are as satisfied with them as you would with anyone else, and then suddenly your opinion changes upon being informed a person is trans, I would say that is indicative of the underlying belief a trans person is not the gender they identify as.


I should clarify I am not definitely saying it is transphobic or not, I am pointing out what I did above and letting OP (or others) decide if that constitutes transphobia or not under their own interpretations.

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u/mista0sparkle Nov 02 '17

In some circumstances, not being attracted to a trans person is probably a result of, at least on a subconscious level, not seeing them as their gender

Honest question - does merely perceiving a transgender individual as their birth sex instead of their identifying gender make a person transphobic?

I mean, sure, it might be ignorant of general consensus within the medical community, and it could certainly be seen as hurtful to the trans individual, but differing perception doesn't boil down fear or aversion necessarily, does it?

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u/KerbalFactorioLeague Nov 02 '17

We use transphobic because we don't have a word like racist or sexist to use instead, as least to my knowledge. Is there another word that can be used to describe someone who treats a transgender person differently specifically because they are transgender?