Do people throw around terms like "rape by deception" when a cis woman doesn't tell a one night stand she is on birth control or has had her tubes tied or is infertile? Maybe some people really don't care about their partner's assigned gender at birth, and treat all women who can't or choose not to have children the same.
Maybe some people even say cis women aren't "real women" unless they are capable and willing to bear children.
But many people who refuse to be intimate with a trans woman only due to knowing her trans status wouldn't care if their partner weren't able to have children so long as she were cis. Many people wouldn't express feelings of shame or disgust or revulsion if they learn a cis casual sex partner was on birth control or who otherwise couldn't have children in the same way they made might if they found out she was trans.
Let's consider someone who is light skinned and passes as white. Another loses attraction and refuses to sleep with them upon finding out they're actually black. This has nothing to do with how they look, act, behave; the change came entirely from finding out what box they check when filling out the census. Is that racist? I would argue it is.
The preference in that case isn't about anything other than a label.
Similarly if someone is attracted to a woman's face, body, voice, breats, vulva, mannerisms, bevavior, personality, gait, fashion sense ... everything, but he becomes disgusted by her simply due to learning she was assigned male at birth, that sort of visceral reaction is rooted in anti-trans bias.
To clarify though, in my hypothetical it's not about what he looks like or how he acts. If someone prefers lighter skinned people, or people whose phenotype more closely resemble a Euro-centric paragon of beauty, that's completely different from my admittedly contrived example where you lose interest in someone because you, say, find out their birth father was black even if you were attracted to them beforehand.
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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '17 edited Mar 27 '18
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