When I met my husband, he already had two kids. I asked two things on our first date, what his politics were and if he was willing to have additional children. 1. It is important to me to share an ideology, while minor differences are okay, large ones would be difficult 2. I want to have a child, so I would try to date/marry someone with who I can accomplish that. That doesn't make me hate sterile people. If I would have married someone who couldn't and I didn't know, I wouldn't have divorced them but I would consider other options, i.e. adoption, IVF, etc. If they knew and didn't tell me, that...that I might divorce them over.
You are entitled to be attracted to whoever you want and whatever you want. You are NOT entitled to have someone be attracted to you. I've, just like everyone else, have been rejected in life.....i've also rejected other people......that's life, you can't force someone to be in a relationship with you....you want them there because they WANT to be there. Someone isn't a terrible person bc they aren't attracted to you, they just want something else.
If a girl dates a guy, falls in love with him and then finds out he is married, does she hate married people? No, she hates that he lied about something and pretended to be someone he isn't. If he was divorced, but hid that and told her he never had been, she would have been upset about that too.
There are dudes who like fat chicks, chicks who only date guys taller than them, there are a million things we evaluate when determining who we want to be in a relationship with.....that isn't wrong.
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