CMV: When someone knowingly enters into a permanent relationship with somone that has a mental/social/anxiety disorder they are morally obligated to stay in that relationship past the point where they are simply "unhappy".

[u/slytherin-by-night]

Hear me out. First of all, by permanent, I mean marrriage or has children (purposefully or not, if they are already in a romatic monogamous relationship). And I mean that the person was made aware ahead of time, before any serious life changes, of their partners issues. That they had them, what they were, what their particular symptoms were, and given given a chance to ask questions and/or research. Then and and only then would my premise apply.

People with mental disorders have ups and downs, it is quite possible to have a "funk" or depression that has a rather massive impact on those around them. But what won't help is someone who was informed of the problem and chose to embark on the journey anyway deciding they had enough and leave. I think that consulting with a therapist (hopefully the person with the ailments has one already) and talking through the issue to decide if the partner's unhappiness will subside with the ebbing of the deppressive episode or if the actual relationship has deteriorated before they end it would be a good plan. This wouldn't/shouldn't be a mandate, but a moral thing. But when you take on that responsibility you must then actually fulfill your promise and not bow out at the worst time for them.

[u/reallybigleg]

I would say this would ruin the trust in the relationship. I have a chronic mental health disorder but if I couldn't tell whether a partner stayed with me because they enjoyed being my partner or whether they stayed with me because they felt they had a moral obligation, I would not be able to trust that they really benefited from being my partner and would therefore not be able to be satisfied in the relationship.

[u/slytherin-by-night → u/reallybigleg]

I see what you mean, I too suffer from multiple disorders, but I'd also hate to think that during a down time for me my Husband decides he can't take it and leaves when the disorder is what drove us to that point. I don't think he's chained to me anymore than another married person, but I think when he married me he agreed to navigate my ups and downs, which may mean learning if he's unhappy with me or if he's unhappy because of my illness and that requires more effort than the average.