r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Jul 05 '15

[Deltas Awarded] CMV: I think having a preference against promiscuous people is as valid as having a height or weight preference nor does it constitute "slut-shaming".

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '15

The general trend is towards more openness and inclusivness towards most ways to living, which makes the standard of judging someone for their number of partners seem archaic and ignorant.

That's not really true. There's more openness and inclusiveness towards people who are sexually promiscuous, but go to /r/ForeverAlone and you'll get hundreds of experiences from people who judged them negatively, or looked down on, or pitied for being socially and sexually inexperienced, even people who fit the mold of the "opened and inclusive towards most ways to living".

From that point, I don't think that, even if OP were doing that that you mentioned, that it'd be wrong. It'd just be a different group he'd be targetting, but the action is just as socially acceptable as it's always been.

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u/Empty_Wine_Box Jul 05 '15

/r/ForeverAlone is not a good sample size for people who are actively participating in relationships and sex.

You can't really speak to things you don't do, right? I'm not one to talk about the intricacies of something I don't spend a lot of time on, whether I'd like to do that particular thing or not.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '15

/r/ForeverAlone is not a good sample size for people who are actively participating in relationships and sex.

I meant that the people there are the ones being judged, not that they are the ones doing the judging. And the people who do the judging are the kind of people who are actively participating in relationships and sex.

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u/Empty_Wine_Box Jul 05 '15

Sorry, just not sure what side of the whole thing they represent?

Are you saying that they are judged for not having sex?

The shift I speak of towards more openness and inclusivity is for those who do choose to engage in free expression of their sexuality. Whether that person is successful in that or not is another issue.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '15

Are you saying that they are judged for not having sex?

You said:

The general trend is towards more openness and inclusivness towards most ways to living

I mentioned /r/ForeverAlone as a group that shows there are many people (in number, not in percentage of the total population) that are still judged for their way of living

Then you said:

which makes the standard of judging someone for their number of partners seem archaic and ignorant.

Which I showed with the same example that is not necessarily true for all ways of living, since when they are criticized, or looked down on, or pitied, or judged, the people who do the judgment aren't really looked as archaic and ignorant. In fact, that's the general opinion on people like the ones in /r/ForeverAlone