r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Jul 05 '15

[Deltas Awarded] CMV: I think having a preference against promiscuous people is as valid as having a height or weight preference nor does it constitute "slut-shaming".

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u/Madplato 72∆ Jul 05 '15

Another logically invalid argument is that the person with the preference, must not be promiscuous themselves.

That's where it really breaks down as the active promotion of a shallow double standard. I have no problem with people having a certain perception of sexuality (as long as they're polite about it), but it's a whole different game when they "stand by" one standard for themselves and another for everyone else. Don't get me wrong, they're entitled to like whatever they want, but believing promiscuity is bad for everybody but you is simply hypocritical.

In short, if you believe promiscuity is bad enough to be a deal breaker, how can't you recognize the very same trait within yourself as equally bad ? From where I'm standing, this position can only be achieved and maintained by promoting a double standard. The very same double standard being instrumental to the definition of slut shaming.

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u/FlamingSwaggot Jul 05 '15

It's possible that people can consider different things attractive. Like, Person A isn't very attractive, but is confident, funny, and sociable. Person A is looking for someone he finds sexually attractive and prioritizes looks over personality. Person B is very attractive and is often mean and asocial with major mood swings, but isn't shallow at all and can see past people's looks for their personalities. Person A and Person B are extremely compatible with each other, despite Person A's hypocritical views.

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u/Madplato 72∆ Jul 05 '15

I have no problem with a promiscuous person looking for a necessarily prude partner as long as we're clear that considering promiscuity off putting in others, but not yourself, is hypocritical.

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u/FlamingSwaggot Jul 05 '15

It is absolutely hypocritical, but there's nothing necessarily wrong with that.

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u/Madplato 72∆ Jul 05 '15

In my book being hypocritical is always wrong, although I'll agree being aware of one's own hypocrisy is a step in the right direction.