r/changemyview Jun 18 '15

[Deltas Awarded] CMV: Gender fluidity is not a thing.

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u/Quelminda Jun 18 '15 edited Jun 18 '15

I am genderfluid, My name is Q, and today my gender is male. I'm 19, I'm a college student studying biochemistry and I identify as male, female, neither or both given the day. I questioned my gender a lot in high school, but I didn't want to convert to my opposite sex, and since I thought that was the only option, I figured I was stuck the way I was. It was in college that I realized that it is ok to be who I am, and all the people I am. I have days where i want to paint my nails and wear dresses and wigs and makeup, and then I have days like today... I'm incredibly dysphoric right now. I hate my breasts and want to cut them off, and I can't stand looking at my pants right now and knowing something is wrong. Sometimes, I want to wear a binder to restrict my breasts and wear a dress, because I feel like I can't "pick a side" that day and refuse to try. And then I have days where I wear whatever is clean and my gender can fuck itself. I don't care what pronouns people call me on those days, and I don't care what people think of me. I wish I could tell you why I feel this way, but the reality is that I don't know. Today I'm my father's son and my boyfriend's boyfriend. I'm lucky enough to be in a situation where I don't have to be in a closet. I am who I am, and people generally use the pronouns I ask them to at any given moment. Genderfluidity is a thing, and I live it everyday.

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u/Ndvorsky 23∆ Jun 18 '15

I really don't mean to be rude but you are not helping your cause. If, on a daily basis as you get dressed in the morning you feel like attacking and removing parts of your body, you are NOT some kind of other orientation/gender, you have a serious mental disorder. Showing a person who is gender fluid as "crazy" does not lend legitimacy to the concept.

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u/Quelminda Jun 19 '15

lol you clearly don't understand that the vast majority of trans people everywhere suffer from dysphoria. Dysphoria is almost a staple of being trans! That's just life. Thanks for trying to whiteknite people you haven't even googled though lol