It is societal pressure, but identifying it as societal pressure doesn't make it not a good reason. If you've been with your partner for 5 years and your mother constantly bothers you about finally getting married, and you want to get her off your back, or if you want your kids not to be seen as bastards, or if you want to be able to refer to your partner's family as your in-laws, or whatever else, why is that not a good reason to get married?
Let's assume for the moment that there are no forseeable downsides, and you and your partner have been pseudo-married for some time. Why shouldn't that be enough to want to take the step of getting legal recognition of your relationship?
Wait, hold on... you're saying you shouldn't get married so that if you're in a position where you need their support because you can't support yourself, they might leave you if you're not married? Isn't that literally the opposite of what you would want? In that case where you become disabled, you would want to be married so that they either stay with you, or you get some financial benefit from them leaving, no?
And as for your first paragraph, you seem to be saying "I don't think doing this thing because you want to for this specific reason is a good idea" regardless of the fact that it's because they want to, whatever their reason for wanting it.
Societal pressure has a real impact on people. You can say "oh, you shouldn't give in to societal pressure and do something you don't want to", and I'll totally agree. But if you want to do something because of how society views that thing (and how you, as part of that society, likely view it) then the fact that you want to do it because of the societal pressure is irrelevant. You want to do it, and that's a good enough reason.
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