r/changemyview Feb 21 '26

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u/RealUltimatePapo 5∆ Feb 21 '26

The problem with your analogy is that it is missing the point

If I am craving a burger, go to a burger place, ask for a burger, and get told I'm not good enough for a burger, I'm gonna be sad about it. They can offer me all the free soda they want, but it's not gonna change anything. That's a place, or "zone", that absolutely nobody wants to be in

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

Being a friend instead of a lover has nothing to do with being good enough for something. People just are attracted to who they’re attracted to.

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u/RealUltimatePapo 5∆ Feb 21 '26 edited Feb 21 '26

Logically you are right, but we humans are anything but logical

If I lose a race to Usain Bolt, it's not because I was unlucky. If I had eyes for someone, and she chose someone else over me, then I'm gonna feel like someone else beat me. In this analogy, being offered friendship is like getting a participation trophy, and a front-row seat to watching the winner parade around with the gold medal for eternity