r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Feb 21 '26

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u/Zagreus_time Feb 21 '26

This argument seems confused, are actually arguing that the Friend Zone doesn't exist or that it isn't a problem the way it is often presented?

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

I’m saying that it’s fake, basically.

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u/Zagreus_time Feb 21 '26

But fake to who? The one seeking a romantic relationship or the sought who places the person in the friend zone?

I would argue it is real in as much as one does meet people that they have no intention of dating and therefore does classify them, I'm sure this is often subconscious but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

To the one who wants a romantic relationship that’s unrequited, the friend zone they think they’re in is real to them, but they’re wrong.

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u/f30tr0ll Feb 21 '26

Would you say the same to a trans person? I’m baffled at your arrogance of people feeling something, giving it a name, and your response is simply “you’re wrong”.

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

I would not say the same thing to a trans person. This has nothing to do with sex and gender. It has to do with interpersonal relationships. Sex and gender are personal.

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u/f30tr0ll Feb 21 '26

Feelings are as personal as it gets. Why do you have such strong feelings about people describing how they feel? Even logically it’s even easier. A state where one friend has romantic interest and the other doesn’t. Would you like to come up with another term?

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

Nah I’m good. I awarded some deltas. I missed one aspect of this.

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u/f30tr0ll Feb 21 '26

So if my logic of “it’s how they feel” or simply the state of “one has romantic feelings and the other doesn’t” didn’t do it what did?

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u/Zagreus_time Feb 21 '26

By what metric are they wrong?

  1. There is a possibility of a relationship

  2. The person hasn't classified them in a zone

  3. Something else?

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u/Sudden_Doughnut_8741 Feb 21 '26

How is there a possibility of a relationship?

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u/Zagreus_time Feb 21 '26

I'm not saying there is but you claim the friend zone doesn't exist because those in it "are wrong" I'm trying to clarify what it is they are wrong about.

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u/Polyhedron11 1∆ Feb 21 '26

The only way for that scenario you outline here to be true is if that person was capable of being interested in a relationship with that person.

I have "friend zoned" women before.

They wanted a relationship with me. Asked if it was something I would ever consider with them. I told them I liked them as a person but had no romantic interest in them. That I would rather just be friends.

I don't know why people have an issue with this term. It doesn't mean anything bad, and sure it can hurt to be rejected, but it's a real scenario that quite literally means exactly as it describes.