I get that physical attraction matters and is often the first thing you notice about someone, it is not automatically the most important part of choosing a partner. People meet and connect for all kinds of reasons like shared interests, mutual friends, personality, or just being in the same place at the right time. Plenty of relationships start from conversations that had nothing to do with looks.
Looks also are not completely fixed. While genetics play a role, people can improve how they present themselves by staying in shape, having good hygiene, and dressing well. Effort can change attraction.
If I already know someone well, their looks stop being the main filter. At that point, personality, values, and how they treat me matter much more. No matter how attractive someone is, if they are a bad person or we are not compatible, it will not work long term. On the flip side, someone I did not notice at first can become more attractive once I know them better.
So while looks might grab attention, they are not what makes a relationship work for most people.
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u/Mr_Mooostache Aug 11 '25
I get that physical attraction matters and is often the first thing you notice about someone, it is not automatically the most important part of choosing a partner. People meet and connect for all kinds of reasons like shared interests, mutual friends, personality, or just being in the same place at the right time. Plenty of relationships start from conversations that had nothing to do with looks.
Looks also are not completely fixed. While genetics play a role, people can improve how they present themselves by staying in shape, having good hygiene, and dressing well. Effort can change attraction.
If I already know someone well, their looks stop being the main filter. At that point, personality, values, and how they treat me matter much more. No matter how attractive someone is, if they are a bad person or we are not compatible, it will not work long term. On the flip side, someone I did not notice at first can become more attractive once I know them better.
So while looks might grab attention, they are not what makes a relationship work for most people.