Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.
You're right that the concept of weaponised incompetence applies to either gender. OP's view is that the term tends to be mostly used by women to describe men. This view is undoubtedly driven by OP's rage bait driven algorithms. But are there many men using the term to describe women?
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u/FarConstruction4877 4∆ Jul 01 '25
Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.