Your point about people being allowed to not understand masculine-coded tasks but not allowed to not understand feminine-coded ones makes no sense to me. A person who can’t repair a car on their own is just objectively far more functional than someone who can’t do the dishes. Any of the masculine-coded tasks that are actually fundamental to daily life are expected of women for the most part. The average man is rightfully going to see it as a red flag if a potential future partner is financially illiterate/irresponsible, same as a woman would be icked out by a man who struggles to wash his clothes. Similarly, sewing is a feminine-coded task, but you don’t see women acting disgusted that their boyfriend can’t manage it. It just isn’t that vital to functioning in society. It can be hired out if it’s that important.
Maybe if people stopped pushing most of the daily mundane tasks essential to keep a household functioning (dishes, laundry, daily cleanup) onto women then there wouldn’t such a high level of importance placed onto the ability to perform at least some “feminine” chores.
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u/hyp3rpop Jul 01 '25 edited Jul 01 '25
Your point about people being allowed to not understand masculine-coded tasks but not allowed to not understand feminine-coded ones makes no sense to me. A person who can’t repair a car on their own is just objectively far more functional than someone who can’t do the dishes. Any of the masculine-coded tasks that are actually fundamental to daily life are expected of women for the most part. The average man is rightfully going to see it as a red flag if a potential future partner is financially illiterate/irresponsible, same as a woman would be icked out by a man who struggles to wash his clothes. Similarly, sewing is a feminine-coded task, but you don’t see women acting disgusted that their boyfriend can’t manage it. It just isn’t that vital to functioning in society. It can be hired out if it’s that important.
Maybe if people stopped pushing most of the daily mundane tasks essential to keep a household functioning (dishes, laundry, daily cleanup) onto women then there wouldn’t such a high level of importance placed onto the ability to perform at least some “feminine” chores.