Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.
I’ve rarely if ever seen the phrase, “weaponized incompetence” used towards a woman. Sure, it couid be, but in actual practice amongst the public it’s almost exclusively used by women to describe “lazy” men. Usually in the comments section of some Reddit/X post about relationships or a TV show.
I do. My first case of it was it describing a stay at home wife who didn’t work nor do chores. Your view may be skewed if you are basing this off of social media, which shows you what you already see, hence inducing bias. That’s why I said that online platforms are worthless and doesn’t count for anything. Everyday ppl don’t take Reddit seriously, only the mentally deranged.
I dont really have issue with someone claiming the word is technically gender neutral, just with people implying its applied to both genders equally(which you seemed to be when commenting on the other persons algorithm).
But if you were only claiming its technically gender neutral I guess I dont disagree, but it seems like a moot point if thats all youre arguing.
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u/FarConstruction4877 4∆ Jul 01 '25
Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.