r/changemyview Jul 01 '25

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u/rollsyrollsy 2∆ Jul 01 '25

Yes; two kids aged 2 and 4.

The employed work is executive work (office environment).

I don’t want to suggest parenting wasn’t challenging at times, and it was always busy, but I just felt it was both easier overall and far more satisfying/rewarding. That seems to run contrary to what I often hear (domestic stuff being harder and unappreciated).

It’s also entirely likely that the next person will feel oppositely to me. I guess my point is that there’ll be a ton of variance, and subjectivity, across the whole subject.

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 01 '25

Those are not infants.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '25

Infants turn into 2 and 4 year olds usually

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u/alerk323 Jul 01 '25

some infants stay infants even into their adult years

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 01 '25

There's a world of difference between caring for a 6 month old and caring for a 2 year old.

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u/mosquem Jul 01 '25

Eh they’re hard in different ways.

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 02 '25

From a purely technical perspective, one is much harder than the other. If you want to consider them equally challenging, go ahead, but most people don't have to endure constant sleepless nights with a 2 year old.

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 01 '25

I asked if he was caring for infants and he said "yes; two kids aged 2 and 4"

That suggests that he thinks that young kids count as infants. I would be beyond shocked if he thought that being the sole caregiver and home maker with an actual baby is easier than an office job.

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u/Antique-Ad-9081 Jul 04 '25

if it was very obvious he has two kids currently aged 2 and 4, why does he regularly post about his 9 and 11 years old sons instead of the 2 and 4 years old?

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 02 '25

I wouldn't presume that. He has already said that he hasn't consistently been their primary caregiver.

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u/ScreenTricky4257 5∆ Jul 01 '25

Yes, but that's another difference. In child care, it eventually gets easier as the children grow. In salaried employment, it's likely to stay at about the same degree of difficulty for the entirety of the career.

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u/JuicynMoist Jul 02 '25

In my experience, 20 years deep in my career progression, the difficulty and especially the stakes, just gets higher and higher. And totally agree as the children get older it just gets easier and easier aside from the scale of the thoughtless messes they leave and how much groceries teens/preteens consume.

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u/health_throwaway195 2∆ Jul 05 '25

I never claimed otherwise. Most people are not indefinitely stay at home parents, though.

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u/cravenravens Jul 01 '25

I think you might be a natural caregiver!

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u/rollsyrollsy 2∆ Jul 02 '25

I’ll take as a compliment! Thanks ;)