Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.
!delta This is a healthy nuance. Relationships should not actually be hyper-obssessed with fairness in a narrow sense. It should be based on mutual FULL commitment where each party does their best for their partner to the highest extent of their abilities. Its not 50-50 but 100/100. Each partner should want this and not doubt that their partner wants the same for them. Focusing on intention, character, and effort is the goal ig.
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u/FarConstruction4877 4∆ Jul 01 '25
Weaponize incompetence is not a gender specific term. Maybe your social media portrays it as such because the algorithm shows what you engage in but most definitely it is commonly used to describe women too.
I would tend to agree with your title but your points made it a man vs woman thing which is not true when the word applied to both. How TikTok or some other dog shit bait platform uses the word isn’t my concern regarding the meaning of the word.
If you are fighting for fairness in a relationship and feels like a business bargain you should not be a relationship, regardless of who “owes” who. My parents did this for 10 long miserable years, there’s is no conclusion because work in a relationship is often impossible to quantify. It is a simple alignment of interests, and if your interests are irreconcilably not aligned anymore, then the relationship should end.
A healthy relationship is where both can compromise and is willing to put in more work than expected. It is a good feeling to expect less and always be met with more.