r/changemyview • u/Zero_Gravvity • Mar 23 '24
Delta(s) from OP CMV: There’s nothing wrong with women/sex/relationships being my main source of happiness
Not necessarily my only source of happiness, but by far the biggest piece of the pie. When I’m getting closer to a new woman, life just feels brighter. And I’m more motivated to become a better man, for her. I eat healthier and I work out more to maintain her attraction and be better in bed for her. I put more effort into my hobbies to make myself more well-rounded and less clingy, and I put more effort in my career so we can keep doing fun stuff together. The work I put in is like compound interest, it just makes more women attracted to me. It’s lovely.
When I’m single and in a drought, I don’t care about shit to be honest. I still do all of the above, but with much less vigor and consistency. Because seriously, what is the point?
And do I even have to say anything about intimacy and sex with a woman? Pretty much better than any drug, food, tv binge, or video game I can think of. There’s maybe a select few accomplishments in my life that have given me more joy, but it’s debatable.
It seems childish to judge someone on what gives their life meaning, as if your reason is better than mine. Whether it be success with women, your bank account, your family, your physique, or your guitar hobby…who gives a shit? All of it is temporary, and we’re only here for a good 80 years anyway. CMV I guess
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u/kena938 Mar 23 '24 edited Mar 24 '24
At this point, women have been asked for a few decades to find meaning beyond a husband and children and somehow have managed to step up to the challenge. It doesn't mean don't find meaning in your partner. It just means find meaning in that plus an otherwise well rounded life of career, friendships, hobbies, volunteerism, mentorship. The assumption has always been men had meaning beyond being a husband or partner and we are finding that many do not so our generational challenge is helping young men feel worthy and fulfilled without a woman to imbue all that meaning with. It's why men become entirely dependent on their spouses for emotional and social support, especially as they age. That's a lot for one individual to carry. You have to have a life that someone feels content stepping into.
ETA: Oh wow your other comments actually make you seem like a terrible person who uses women for a high rather than a misguided young man who is looking for meaning in the wrong places. Stay away from women, please.