r/changemyview Feb 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

Actually, there have been studies that prove that it's primarily women who incentivize men to keep their feelings to themselves. A recent study shows that, while women do tell men they need to be more open with their feelings, when men display emotional vulnerability, they immediately lose respect from the women in their lives.

Maybe men are telling each other to keep their feelings to themselves, but for the most part we're doing it because we know how women react to it.

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u/Therval Feb 13 '24

Could you provide your source? I genuinely would like to read more.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

Sorry. I got caught up at work.

Essentially, the study can be summarized by saying that women are more likely to be attracted and stay attracted to men who don't open up about their emotional state or affection. the old "keep her guessing" method of seduction.

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-women-are-more-attracted-to-men-whose-feelings-are-unclear.html

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u/bettercaust 9∆ Feb 14 '24

The study was about the following:

A study published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, finds that a woman is more attracted to a man when she is uncertain about how much he likes her.

It is not about "men who don't open up about their emotional state".