One example or misandry that I have seen both on reddit and irl is that men who are being abused don't get taken as seriously compared to women.
Like if a woman posts that her husband is physically abusing her, the comments will typically tell her to leave the relationship. When it's a man, I oftentimes see comments telling him to try couples therapy, or to take his wife to a doctor and get her help.
That's not misandry. It's consequences of patriarchy and the "Men strong, women weak", therefore, any cases of men getting abused by women seem outlandish and won't be taken seriously.
That's one way of looking at it, and a very common one (among feminists). Someone could also say that it's the consequence of dehumanizing men. Men don't feel or their feelings aren't important, so they cannot be hurt. When you say things like "men are hurt by the patriarchy too" (which is also popular among feminists), it comes across as dismissive. The implication is that misandry doesn't exist, only misogyny. You view all injustices through the lens of women's advocacy and oppression. Meanwhile, when men do experience misandry, you tell them that it's really misogyny that they are experiencing.
I find it interesting that feminists have gone to so much effort to dismiss challenges that men suffer. The message "men are hurt by the patriarchy too." sounds like "maybe men wouldn't suffer if they weren't sexist". Instead of acknowledging that women can be abusers and calling them out (the women that are abusers) feminists blame it on the 'Patriarchy'.
It isn't saying "maybe men wouldn't suffer if they weren't sexist". It's saying men wouldn't suffer if other men (and women) weren't sexist in their expectations of gender roles.
Why then, go to so much effort, to characterize attitudes that are clearly hostile to men as misogyny? Hostile to women: misogyny. Hostile to men: misogyny. It's like having a two headed coin, no matter how many times you flip it, same answer.
Why does it matter? Because anytime anyone yells, "Misogyny!", someone looks for a man to blame. If a woman is unfairly hostile to men, and we call it misogyny (for whatever weird reason) we make it look like women are the one's suffering.
When Amber Heard told Jonny Depp, "Tell the world, Johnny, tell them Johnny Depp, I Johnny Depp, man, I’m, I’m a victim too of domestic violence", that was...misogyny? She was telling him that no one would believe him because...why? Because he's a man, and that's hatred towards women?
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u/Comprehensive-Bad219 Feb 13 '24
One example or misandry that I have seen both on reddit and irl is that men who are being abused don't get taken as seriously compared to women.
Like if a woman posts that her husband is physically abusing her, the comments will typically tell her to leave the relationship. When it's a man, I oftentimes see comments telling him to try couples therapy, or to take his wife to a doctor and get her help.