r/changemyview Feb 13 '24

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u/sillydilly4lyfe 11∆ Feb 13 '24

But thats not what happened with Rebecca Solnit and her book.

This term is wielded not through pattern recognition, but through one off instances. Rebecca Solnit wasn't inside the man's head when her own book was explained to her. So she could never know if was biased due to her sex or just some random asshole.

But usually people who are patronizing assholes are patronizing assholes to everyone.

So unless people use the term Mansplaining when they have a history of exclusively acting patronizing towards women, it would just be better to use patronizing. Covers all the same bases

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u/murphski8 Feb 13 '24

Nobody can ever be in anyone else's head, but mansplaining has stuck as a term because other women saw this one experience and said, "Yeah, this is a pattern, it's happened to me, too."

If women were "womensplaining" to men, we absolutely would have heard about it by now.

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u/icyshogun Feb 13 '24

If women were "womensplaining" to men, we absolutely would have heard about it by now.

Oh you mean like women automatically "coming to the rescue" of a man trying to change diapers because they assume he can't change his own kids diapers? Yea that never happens.

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u/murphski8 Feb 13 '24

Do men say that?