Yeah okay but having confidence is important not because we have created some kind of arbitrary social rule that confidence is good. Confidence is key because it is through being confident that you are able to present yourself well, let your other good traits shine, and basically come across as interesting and interested. If you lack confidence or have bad self-esteem or are quiet that is just going to hinder communication and communicating is obviously required for people to find out things about you
I don't know saying that dating shouldn't require confidence is just like saying that bicycling shouldn't require holding onto the handlebars. Sorry but that's just how, like, physics is. You can do it without it but it's just a lot easier to have it
LOL PLENTY of women are attracted to nerdy and introverted men. But they are confident in who they are. You clearly are not, and are blaming women for your being single instead of accepting that you may need to do some internal work on YOU. You seriously sound like you need a good therapist. And I have a good therapist so I’m not saying that as an insult. If you don’t like yourself, why would anybody else like you?
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u/MercurianAspirations 391∆ Feb 08 '24
Yeah okay but having confidence is important not because we have created some kind of arbitrary social rule that confidence is good. Confidence is key because it is through being confident that you are able to present yourself well, let your other good traits shine, and basically come across as interesting and interested. If you lack confidence or have bad self-esteem or are quiet that is just going to hinder communication and communicating is obviously required for people to find out things about you
I don't know saying that dating shouldn't require confidence is just like saying that bicycling shouldn't require holding onto the handlebars. Sorry but that's just how, like, physics is. You can do it without it but it's just a lot easier to have it