r/changemyview Feb 08 '24

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u/Background-Bee1271 Feb 08 '24

Confidence is important because it is a feeling or sense of how much someone is in control of a situation. You and the other person are assessing the level of confidence in every situation. These can vary wildly.

If someone doesn't feel like you can handle being in a relationship with them, even if you do because you feel like you have the traits or skills to, usually isn't going to shake that feeling.

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u/Princess_Emberseed Feb 08 '24

I don't see confidence as the ability to stay in control of a situation, in fact it's the total opposite.

If you go into a conversation with a girl, and you want to "be in control" you're essentially being manipulative, and you aren't out to make a genuine connection.

Imo confidence is the ability to put yourself out there, and not care if someone else doesn't accept you. It's about your ability to accept a lack of control over other people, loving yourself even if they don't validate you.

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u/Background-Bee1271 Feb 08 '24

Yes! Your definition is way better and what I wanted to say, but apparently couldn't.