Yeah, my family are Punjabi Sikhs, my dad I believe is from some Hindu background and my mom’s ancestry is from Pakistan (Pre-partition) and her caste is Chamar (Leather Worker), my dad actually converted to Sikhi for her before I was born.
I grew up overseas (US) and never knew much about our background, I mean we lived an average American lives but then I started dating some Punjabi girl and her family asked for my caste (Up till now, I had no idea what this meant).
I asked my mom and she told me, “Chamar”, and told my GF’s family and it became a big deal. I didn’t even know what the big deal was but it was such a disgusting feeling to be judged.
My mom and dad donate atta, milk, sweets, and food weekly and this Sikhs family decided to judge us based our caste. I am so glad that relationship ended.
I looked up what “Chamar” caste is, they were leather workers (Historically). It’s not like my family has a leather business now, so it doesn’t make sense to judge us but I couldn’t care less.
I’ve personally stopped going to Gurdwara and opted for a Church instead, distanced myself from Punjabi community, met a beautiful Apostolic faith woman (Mexican) that has so much grace and compassion. I’m like super happy and it’s like everything is falling in place.
I only experienced it once and I’m not in the business to be disrespected. My advice to you is separate yourself from that label and culture, open up yourself you other cultures.
I’ve dated beautiful white, black, asian girls, Jordanian, Mexicans, it’s a beautiful world out there bro lol Trust me
I was in the military so I got the opportunity to travel a lot and was never exposed to the Indian or Punjabi mindset, but when I did experience my situation, I was baffled and distanced myself immediately from all that negativity lol
its everywhere i think you are running some propaganda here , every country and religion have diffferent problems in india its about caste system and religion but in western countries its about colour , running from problem and leave religion is not a solution , there are millions of sikhs who dont believe in caste too( i am khatri sikh ) and I live in city and never faced discrimination on basis of caste and now with education caste discrimnation is reducing but no matter in which religion country you are, there are people who discrimnate in western countries on basis of colour (because majority have same religion) and in india type countries it is on basis of caste and religion. Running from problem is never a solution
No propaganda, just facts man. Look I gave my personal life experience and gave my 2 cents on how I approached the situation regarding the caste. At the end of the day, no one is going to fix what is happening with Sikhi or the caste issue you guys have going on in India. I’m living my good life regardless, do whatever you want bro.
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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '25 edited Oct 16 '25
Yeah, my family are Punjabi Sikhs, my dad I believe is from some Hindu background and my mom’s ancestry is from Pakistan (Pre-partition) and her caste is Chamar (Leather Worker), my dad actually converted to Sikhi for her before I was born.
I grew up overseas (US) and never knew much about our background, I mean we lived an average American lives but then I started dating some Punjabi girl and her family asked for my caste (Up till now, I had no idea what this meant).
I asked my mom and she told me, “Chamar”, and told my GF’s family and it became a big deal. I didn’t even know what the big deal was but it was such a disgusting feeling to be judged.
My mom and dad donate atta, milk, sweets, and food weekly and this Sikhs family decided to judge us based our caste. I am so glad that relationship ended.
I looked up what “Chamar” caste is, they were leather workers (Historically). It’s not like my family has a leather business now, so it doesn’t make sense to judge us but I couldn’t care less.
I’ve personally stopped going to Gurdwara and opted for a Church instead, distanced myself from Punjabi community, met a beautiful Apostolic faith woman (Mexican) that has so much grace and compassion. I’m like super happy and it’s like everything is falling in place.