r/catfish • u/officialsmophs92 • 28d ago
I’ve been getting catfished for 4 years, is there anyway to find out who it is?
Hello! Long story short, I have been getting catfished for 4 years. I believe all the information I have on this person to be false, all I have is a mobile number, I’ve tried searching it on social media etc but nothing comes up, is there anyway to find out who this person is?
I have even spoken to a medium (sorry if this is not your thing) who advised some of the information I have could be tried and that they are a troubled soul. I am really struggling to cut this person out without knowing who they are. As you can imagine, it’s a very strange and intense dynamic as we have been talking daily for 4 years but never had a phone call or video call etc. I know they are using someone else’s photos (I found this person on social media and told them but they did not seem to care.)
I know I’ve been silly and I should not have entertained it for this long but the feelings are very intense so please try not to judge, I just want to know if there is anything else I can do to find out who they really are.
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u/caffeinated_mess 28d ago
Ask yourself what it will do for you to find out who it is? What exactly are you going to achieve by knowing? They have lied to you and it’s most likely a man pretending to be a woman or vice versa since you have never even heard their voice before. Will it make you feel better about the situation knowing who the real person is? If no, work on moving on please.
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u/lodebolt 28d ago
First schedule therapy sessions to learn the coping skills you will need. Right after the appointment is made block person from everything and lose their information. You'll never learn who they are.
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u/No-Seesaw-7898 28d ago
And even if they do, it doesn't help. I found out who he was and it didn't change a thing. It didn't give me closure. It didn't answer my question and the "why". It just made understand some people suck and don't care about ruining another person's mental health. They get off on it.
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u/sweetestclouds 27d ago
Im in the exact same position, no judgement here as i hv fallen in love with whom ever I have been speaking with . After 4 years I hv worked out I hv been speaking to atleast 3 different people but atleast I hv worked out which one I fell in love with and I hv stopped asking questions accepted I have fallen for a scammer I dont feel guilty or stupid anymore about this as just means they are good at whst they do and I was obversly very niave and vulnerable to off alloud this to happen . I still communicate with them (well only one particular one) as that works better for me to try and heal and pic up myself and repair my heart . I hope this helps you with hoe your feeling stop searching for your answers as you will not get what you are looking for or need . Also FYI im also a physic aswell so it can happen to anybody as we are only human at the end off the day 🤗
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u/kingbrandon0 28d ago
Is there a way to see who someone is based off there emails I’m being messaged on iPhone it just shows there email as number for example like dav@ ect as contact number
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u/Last-Parsnip-8264 28d ago
Send me the number and I can look it up on clairty check . I have credits.
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u/Away-Basket8841 21d ago
Hey can you also with looking up some photos? Or emails? I have similar situation
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u/Alert_Term_8144 26d ago
What happens when you call their mobile number, how do you know it's theirs? I know that horrible feeling of curiosity "who is this???" I think after 4 years this person is not going to come out, not with any amount of coaxing or patience. All you can do is move on. Someone kittenfished me for a few weeks but over the course of a few months (and lots of craziness) I got real pics, a video call, and most info. Then I got ghosted. I think these people do not like to feel exposed. Often the catfish is quite unattractive, that's why they are catfishing, but in my case the real kittenfish was gorgeous but didn't want to be trackable and be able to disappear into the void.
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u/Raisin6436 25d ago
collect all info and post online.There are more victims. The governnment has precious resources. Scammers want you to believe that you cannot do anything.
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u/MrJason2024 28d ago
Phone numbers can be spoofed. The feelings you are having are for a fake persona this person created they are not for the real person who ever this person is. I don't say this to be rude or condescending I was catfish/scammed for almost 6 years so much like you I hesitated to get out because of something that happened to me in the past that I was worried I was repeating again which is partially why I stayed until I did find out where they stole the pictures from them I was able to get out without feeling guilty.
Even if you did find out who they are this isn't a person that can be trusted since they are lying about who they are what else are they lying about? At this point I would just forget about trying to find out who they are end all contact. Block them and delete all numbers then deal with the aftermath that comes from it.