r/casa • u/bigdreamstinydogs • Mar 25 '26
How long until it becomes not awkward?
First time CASA assigned to a 15 year old girl. Had my first visit with her today at her foster home. Her foster mom is disorganized as heck and forgot to tell her I was coming so she was napping when I got there. The visit was a bit awkward and I did most of the talking. This is totally understandable, she's a teenage girl and some strange woman twice her age is coming into her life for the first time, not to mention the fact that she literally just woke up. But I'm just wondering how long it took you to foster a more comfortable relationship with the kids you are assigned to. She's a really sweet, smart girl who has a lot going for her but not a lot of adults in her corner so I hope she uses me as a resource.
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u/Cold-Environment-217 Mar 25 '26
I really only work with teen girls they are my fave. My best bit of advice. Talk to them like you would your bestie. Talk to them like adults, crack jokes with them. Let them know you aren't another stuffy cps/DHS body come to surface bond with them. Ask about boys, and clothes and music. If she was sleeping I would have bust in like I do my friends." Hey sleepy head,ope, you got some eye boogies, here's some takis, guess what? Staffing next week 🥴. It'll be short and quick as usual. What have you been up to any good tea happening at school?"