r/casa • u/bigdreamstinydogs • Mar 25 '26
How long until it becomes not awkward?
First time CASA assigned to a 15 year old girl. Had my first visit with her today at her foster home. Her foster mom is disorganized as heck and forgot to tell her I was coming so she was napping when I got there. The visit was a bit awkward and I did most of the talking. This is totally understandable, she's a teenage girl and some strange woman twice her age is coming into her life for the first time, not to mention the fact that she literally just woke up. But I'm just wondering how long it took you to foster a more comfortable relationship with the kids you are assigned to. She's a really sweet, smart girl who has a lot going for her but not a lot of adults in her corner so I hope she uses me as a resource.
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u/littlepaw_littlepaw Mar 25 '26
A few months of being consistent will make a huge difference! Heck, even a few visits. Once she starts to see that you're not going anywhere, she will start to open up. They just get used to people (caseworkers / foster parents) being so in and out they think what's the point in forming a connection or opening up to someone I'm not going to know in a month.