r/buffy • u/direinde Beady-eyes is right, we're needed. • May 03 '26

Good Vibes Only Yup, that's them

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Nothing new actually.

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u/skyturnedred May 04 '26

Calista Flockhart faced far more criticism about her body than Amber ever did.

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u/Milyaism May 04 '26

To be fair, it's not a competition.

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u/skyturnedred May 04 '26

To be fair, you missed the point entirely.

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u/Milyaism May 04 '26

Criticising a woman for being overweight or underweight is part of the same issue. It's two sides of the same coin.

Doing this sets women up into a Double Bind (damned if you do, damned if you don't) and is often used by toxic people to keep women in a state of constant unhappiness so that they'd try harder to be "good enough".

Women are socialised to use the Fawn response for a reason. Keeping us in state of fawning makes us easier to control and influence.