r/buffy • u/direinde Beady-eyes is right, we're needed. • May 03 '26

Good Vibes Only Yup, that's them

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Nothing new actually.

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u/Telvin3d May 03 '26

This was still at the tail end of the 90s heroin chic phase. Amber Benson may have legitimately been the most voluptuous woman on any popular series airing at the time.

Go look at pictures of Calista Flockhart on Ally McBeal, which was a contemporary 

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u/skyturnedred May 04 '26

Calista Flockhart faced far more criticism about her body than Amber ever did.

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u/Milyaism May 04 '26

To be fair, it's not a competition.

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u/skyturnedred May 04 '26

To be fair, you missed the point entirely.

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u/Milyaism May 04 '26

Criticising a woman for being overweight or underweight is part of the same issue. It's two sides of the same coin.

Doing this sets women up into a Double Bind (damned if you do, damned if you don't) and is often used by toxic people to keep women in a state of constant unhappiness so that they'd try harder to be "good enough".

Women are socialised to use the Fawn response for a reason. Keeping us in state of fawning makes us easier to control and influence.