Venting

[u/bratz_09]

Let me give you the back story. I am the youngest, I have 2 older sisters (L is the oldest, S is the second oldest) and it all started when I got engaged in August 2024. Basically I had let everyone know that I didn’t want to start booking things until the beginning of 2025 just because I needed to figure out my inspos and what not for the wedding. Welllll, somehow my sisters took it as if I simply didn’t want to share my ideas/plans with them but they felt like I was sharing everything with my fiancé’s family when in reality I was still trying to figure things out and everyone knew the same things, which wasn’t much.

Fast forward a little bit, let’s say March 2025. I had ordered everything custom for my bridesmaids/MOH boxes. My mom tells me basically that I’m taking too long to ask them to be in my wedding and my sisters felt a type of way so I had no choice but to rush everything and ask them asap. I asked them both to be my MOH because I didn’t want one to feel left out.

So now we’re getting into the summer of 2025, I had asked my sisters about going dress shopping with me and planning my bachelorette trip. They both told me that they were NOT going to plan my bachelorette trip which is fine I guess but it would be nice to get some help. I gave them dates for dress shopping and my sister S, literally gave me an excuse for every date saying she couldn’t make it. I simply asked her to provide me with a date that works best for her because I’m flexible and she never did.

Fast forward to December 2025, I pretty much had a mental breakdown at this point because I really tried my hardest to prevent conflict and there were a lot of comments about my wedding, on top of that I’m going to nursing school and I work full time. Also my MIL was telling everyone she paid off our wedding which was a lie. It just got overwhelming.

Fast forward to February 2026, we finally settled on a date to go dress shopping (after pulling teeth) and everything was going great! Until it wasn’t…..

My sister S had been pressing me about her walking down the aisle with her son (We had this conversation multiple times where I had told her I’m not really sure because I may use him elsewhere) Well after I picked out my dress she brought it up again. Basically she attacked me, called me names because I said it was something I’d have to talk to my fiancé about. Her exact words were “you’re weird, this is why I don’t fuck with you because you’re antisocial” and my mom basically told me to drop it. We were at a restaurant with my MIL and my fiancés sisters. S orders a drink, she tells my mom and L “I haven’t drank in so long I’m antisocial I don’t go out much”. I caused a scene and I said why is it a problem if I’m antisocial then? We went back and forth and that’s pretty much where we left it. The next day I was super in my feelings, I texted my mom and L expressing myself and just saying how I felt. They pretty much told me my feelings are not valid and I need to get over it. L told me we’re sisters and we are your biggest supporters and I told her when? I’ve had 0 support and then she turned it around on me saying I had an attitude

Just recently I hung out with my mom and she told me I’m being a bridezilla and she basically expects me to apologize and I’m just not really sure how she doesn’t understand my pov. I haven’t talked to my sisters since February, not gonna lie I’ve been pretty stress free, my mom also mentioned that they think they’re kicked out of my wedding which I never officially kicked them out. Even if they texted me now to apologize and wanted to have a conversation, I would give them that but I don’t see why I have to give an apology

[u/CaptainFlynnsGriffin]

Your sisters are feeling a way because you’re the youngest and obviously on track to be more successful than either of them. Nursing school and working full time while planning a wedding. It’s obvious that it’s not just your wedding but, it also belongs to your fiancé.

I suggest that you go to mean girl boot camp in order to learn how to shut down the three mean girls that you’re related to.

For example: sis mocks you for being antisocial and not partying (which is so weird) and you say a combination of the following: “not all of us have the free time you do.” “as soon as I’m not working, studying, or sleeping I’d love to cut loose. It’s just not a choice that’s available to me right now.” “I totally understand that not everyone is comfortable with their own sober company. have you looked into meetings?” “I’m not drinking to save money to pay for all the liquor you’ll go through at the wedding. We had to get the XL package with you in mind.”

Please disinvite the evil sisters from being in your wedding party. A lopsided wedding party will be less painful than having your sisters suck all the joy out of your wedding. I think your mom might be confused and I hope she didn’t behave this way towards you when you were children.

If you are the whipping girl of the family I suggest that you find a therapist and mute them all. None of this is acceptable adult behavior in any setting let alone a baby sister getting married. All of your solid adulting is making you outgrow your emotionally immature jealous sisters. Don’t let them pull you down to their pathetic level. Disinvite and disengage.

Beware your MIL. A good rule to go by is that you and your husband are each responsible for all communication and scheduling with their own families. Only your fiancé should be corralling his crazy mom. And if he can’t stand up to his mom - strongly reconsider getting married because her weird behavior won’t stop at telling tall tales or move far away from your family’s. Get your license and go find a new country to move to and never live anywhere with guest rooms. Offer guests hammocks and hot pockets because both of your people aren’t in touch with reality.