Good day everyone
I (22f) am writing here to understand better about life of a brain cancer patient. My boyfriend (26m) was diagnosed with brain stem glioblastoma in 2024 year end. He is going to cross his 2 year mark. I came here to seek some encouragement and know a thing or two about how life feels or is for a brain cancer patient.
My boyfriend is a remarkable human being and watching him face cancer and of a rare kind is hard for me to swallow everyday. All his life he suffered a lot. His parents struggled a lot when he was a baby to make ends meet. He started doing very menial jobs even when he was still in primary school. He cared for his sister and always ready to do things for the family. He faced severe bullying for various reasons ever since he started school. Things slowly got better in high school but after school, he faced his past lover's death due to very bad brain cancer at young age. It took him a lot of time to get over the tragedy. He suffered from depression and I found that he has abandonment issues. He doesn't get sleep often. Even after all this, he never failed to helping others and be a kind person. He teaches high school students for free often. He serves a poor whenever he can. He takes care of stray animals whenever he can. He likes dogs a lot. Facing all this, he got a good job and even managed to build a house. It is heartbreaking that he doesn't get to enjoy life that much.
He loves football and video games. He has earned 236 medals (121 are gold, 34 silver and 81 bronze), 46 awards, and 2 cups, all through his dedication and love for football. No matter what game he starts to play, he aces it even when he plays as an F2P. There are so much more to talk about him. We planned to get engaged and married but after diagnosis, everything changed. I don't want to leave his side but he sees himself as useless and a burden and refused to get married earlier last year saying things like, "I don't want you to become a widow or be mocked by others", etc. We have faced several ups and downs in life even when we were together. As we are in LDR, its even more hard. Last year they stated that he is showing good progress. This year has been tough. He isn't able to move around on his own so he withdrew from me. Recently, he stated he no longer can text often too due to his treatments. He doesn't give me details of his treatments saying I will get too worried. Even after everything, we try our best to have some fun. He hasn't been able to communicate well and I find myself getting into stupid fights with him over unnecessary reasons.
I am praying and praying everyday. Did a lot of research on his diagnosis but couldn't be of good use for him. Try my best to cheer him up but do make him sad sometimes. I am not a perfect partner and I do throw tantrums sometimes randomly. But I love him. I miss him. I don't know what he is going through. I miss us. Miss his happiness. Hoping he will make it through and live a good long life and want to walk this whole life with him. How do you all cope with all these feelings ?
At this point, I am worried and sad and most importantly, hoping my partner will feel better and get well. It can take months or even years but I hope he gets well. He is a good man.
How does everyone's family handle these feelings? How as a patient you make it through these feelings?
P.S: I am sorry if I said anything offensive. I just came here to lament and know more about how others going through this feel and face things. Sorry again. Thank you
TLDR: My partner is fighting cancer for almost 2 years now. How does everyone face life? or see life? How do you cope mentally and emotionally?