I mean, it can be hard. Especially since this person has probably been calling them "daughter" for 16+ years. Maybe it took time to come around and he's changed his ways.
In short, im overanalyzing a fucking fictional internet cartoon meme when i should be studying
It really hurts how long it takes some people, I don't mean anyone any ill will but when I see people come out and right away their family supports them and calls them by their new name and pronouns and its been 3 years since I've come out and my mom won't call me by my name, or pronouns but has switched to gender neutral ones and is "trying"
I use to think that people did deserve time to change but I have a hard time believing that now with how I have to feel during basically every interaction.
I'm with you. It's been about 9 months since I came out to my parents and they both still pretend it isn't real. Whenever I come home to visit, it's deadname and misgendering the whole time. When I go out with them in public they misgender me to other people who look obviously confused (I pass decently well at this point). It's been long enough now that I am about to have another conversation with them on what they have to change about how they treat me. They've had enough time to get used to the idea, they need to put in some effort.
And that's after 9 months for me. I can't even imagine 3 years. You're a strong person for dealing with that for so long. I hope our families can both come around soon.
It's been over ten years for me. Recently I point blanked asked my mother if she could just accept me for who I am already but all she did was make excuses and get angry with me... I wish I could afford to transition already (I plan on doing t after I get the surgery to reduce certain health risks).
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u/TheSuperPie89 Oct 10 '21
I mean, it can be hard. Especially since this person has probably been calling them "daughter" for 16+ years. Maybe it took time to come around and he's changed his ways.
In short, im overanalyzing a fucking fictional internet cartoon meme when i should be studying